Yesterday, I had the privilege or distinct honor of being reminded that there are some places I really still don’t belong. I went to an international event where the official greeters were anything but welcoming, perhaps stressed but indeed hostile most people upon encountering the woman simply walked by the sign-in table and entered the auditorium for the program. While it was an international affair, she was indeed an angry African-American woman her lack of eye contact but unfortunate communication a true turn-off. I alsod didn’t fare well with another program participant – but as I knew that I had received a spiritual clue – I headed on home.
Sometimes some of our patterns take hold and we can’t shake them. Our egos get in the way. We want to move forward but we are stuck. Taking stock and sitting still is one way to go about it, but the real thing to remember is change is on the horizon.
Rejection. No one likes it. I like many people have spent years avoiding it, negotiating it and ignoring it. I’ve built a career somewhat on not accepting rejection fully. There are all kinds forms and shapes of it. That special someone or some thiing does not want us. We try, we push we force. sometimes not accepting another person’s rejection is a dangerous enterprise. You can end up making them a source for your soul. Take the painful moment. It will subside. Instead of wasting years of your life on something that will turn to dust -let it go now.
If a man you are dating just dishes out crumbs don’t treat them like a gourmet meal. Its not just that’s he’s not into you, he’s doing it to keep you on call when he needs you. You are part of his fan club. Many men have these harems which some manage electronically.
If he does anything at the beginning of the relationship that shows disinterest or disrespect, especially in front of your friends…kick him to the curb, he’s already shown you who he is. .. Ignore the melting eyes and candlelit dinners. You are not the exception, He rules.
Sometimes rejection is a blessing. We don’t know it and we try and we try to make people respond, like, do things, accept us. This can go on for years before we get a breakthrough. Our power is within us we are loved. The people who don’t want us in their lives are not worth another thought. If you can’t say goodbye in person just say it in your mind. You’ll be free.
They had graduated from high school more than 40 years ago. Still they did not really graduate “mentally, emotionally or physically.” They were the rock stars and now in their late 50s, 60s and 70s their best days are behind them. Still trying to mac down or be the player. Their adolescent mentality has driven them to despair. For some, are on a mission, they really still believe their own press releases. I’ve gotten got up with their swirl before but now as I struggle to get out from under. I was a nerd but now I know better.
I’m sure KoKo and J.C. approve.