Learning to Say No

Enough already, yet another request for free services, there are only so many hours in a day. People push lie and try to steal your hope, job and energy. They assure you they are different. Watch out for these flattering, well dressed poised for poison dart throwing and the love sick life sucking harpy in particular. The harpy should be avoided as often as possible she just perceives you as a rival. The dart thrower requires careful extraction.

Either way say just say no.


The New and the Old

Recently I attended a DC event where the elite meet. Usually this host has A listers but it was Project Runway night and raining as well so few were in attendance, mostly it was political reporters, many of whom, did not get the memo- they still believe in their relevancy. Gathering in small circles like clucking hens -,one even bragged with snotty arrogance she didn’t know Ed Sullivan and could care less about the International Trade building- but then her publisher once deemed soon to be outed school score cheat on its cover. Still many were youngish but so amazingly out of touch with the real world. Newspapers with old heads who declare no news is local, prima Donna columnists with a let them eat cake mentality wonder why their revenue dollars are shrinking .. Not one of the elite young journalists I spoke to had seen a recent Buzzfeed on Putin including the aforementioned reporter who didn’t know Sullivan was a foreign policy reporter – for a major magazine? Grabbling to get back on top.. Suggestion .. Go back to the well.. Snobbery does not make good journalism.

Breaking out the self-centered fog

It is tough breaking out of the cycle of selfishness – but for those of us another its hold for decades freedom. The anxiety, the effort, the change that must happen – sometimes a gut renovation. The enemy will be busy as well ..so called well meaning people who sabatoge and openly try to destroy one’s dreams and ambitions..don’t let them. Pray and keep moving forward.

Putting Someone in Their Place – Without Words

Sometimes it is not your imagination people want to do you in.  You take their advice and then they try to rope you in further to needing them.   What was a small problem with one individual suddenly looms large.  The best thing is to remove that person’s influence of you even for a moment.   Who knows why they are putting you down? Who cares? Be at peace

What Else Could That Mean

Like many women I have found myself a subject to the siren call of self-help books that promise to magically and dramatically drop Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now in my lap. Although I have to do is be peppy, cheerful, supportive, seductive, mysterious, not as giving, play a game, play the rules, be direct, give up the cookie, hide the cookie, think like a man, date like a man or just stop looking period. One thing that always fueled my anger was expectations and summation of what it all could be about when a man is not available, is clearly dating others, doesn’t call – most guys do digital especially the ones that don’t like the phone. Yes, Digital Don Juans exist – but so do the guys who are because of this advanced technical age fairly busy. We are too. Maybe it is time as the great “Mama Gena” said to let go of some of that hostility. We are all doing the best we can – so are the men in our lives. Whether there for a moment or an eternity(or what seems like an eternity). The best we can do is love ourselves, love ourselves so much that it overflows.


House Speaker John Boehner recently found himself in hot water for not responding to   New Jersey Governor Chris Christie’s calls but as this is not a political column  I digress.  Sometimes  people don’t quite do what we want.  Then again they  at least owe us some type of response for  the sake of common courtesy.     Boehner owed Christie a call – much more than  that .  Today I asked a colleague to respond to a simple question involving a business venture.  He chose not to respond – unfortunately that’s  not the first time.  For him it seems  it’s about power more than accomplishment.    Knowing this and reflecting on what was at stake for me versus the millions impacted by Superstorm Sandy I gave the siutation  perspective.  My colleague  merely displayed disrespectful behavior . I joked he gave me a “Boehner.” and he really just  deserves to  be ignored in turn.  My project will get done without his  help now.  Hopefully, prayerfully because of Christie’s courageous and masterful attack on Boehner , New Jersey and New York residents impacted by  the superstorm will get financial relief.  Perspective.